Are you qualified to be in a relationship?
by: WesleyMccormick251
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Date: Thu, 6 Oct 2011 Time: 3:20 PM
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As far as dating and relationship issues go, people have various reasons why they need to be with someone. Some of these reasons may seem surprising, since the only reason one should be seeking a relationship is love, isn't it? Perhaps you have started relationships for one or more of the reasons I will cite here. If so, don't worry about it, but take the lessons learned and if the opportunity affords itself again, make sure you have the right reasons for embarking on a relationship. So here we go...
1) They want a replacement figure for their mother/father. As surprising as this sounds, there is a lot of truth to this. Many men, particularly have been guilty of this crime. There are men who have never lived alone for any period of time since they left their mothers home. Every woman that they have had since leaving home has somehow been a reflection of their mother. These men will choose women who can "mother them"
2) They allow their age to influence their decision. Society has conditioned us to believe that once we are over 30, we are "past it" in other words, we have passed our expiry date and this causes panic and anxiety to set in. Coupled with comments from friends and family about "not getting any younger" and you have the perfect ingredients for a wrong decision.
3) They are bored and want something to do to pass the time. Oh dear! This is probably the most dangerous reason why you would want to be in a relationship. There are so many things to do in life to make it more interesting and you decide to choose a relationship in order to pass the time. Relationships are about the giving of yourself and the other person giving to you. It is not a hobby to relieve boredom. The same attitude that got you in there will be the same attitude that kicked you out of there too!
Long lasting and happy relationships start with a solid foundation. A solid foundation will keep your relationship grounded when difficulties arrive. So examine your reasons before committing yourself to someone else.
About the Author
Tony Cross is a relationship coach and has helped many to resolve their relationship difficulties. His website is found at www.datingandrelationshipissues.com
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